A young lady identified as Isabella Ibeji on Monday, August 8, posted the video of some women on YouTube, where one of them revealed that she hates men. According to the video, she disclosed that she paid a courtesy visit to these ladies and when they got talking they all opened up on how they were forced into marriage at either 18 or 19 years of age. Ibeji also took out time to explain that despite all the challenges they have been through in their marriages, she tried to convince them but their minds were already made about men and nothing can change that.
She narrated that: “I was with four ladies yesterday who had something in common, they’d gotten married too soon, too early and two of them have been chased out of their homes while the other two hate their husbands with passion, one of them is the breadwinner so she says her husband had no say in their home. The lady lying down was sent out or her husband’s house after he got rich, she gave birth to two boys before she was sent packing, before she was sent packing the husband impregnated a woman older than she was and brought her home, this older woman has kids who she, in turn, brought to her new husband’s house lol. The other lady has just one girl, while the one screaming she hates men has four kids, she says she hasn’t enjoyed love-making for one day that the husband only makes love with her to impregnate her.” Isabella further added saying: “The other lady says she doesn’t respect her husband anymore so she does with him as she pleases. They were all trying to convince me how men are scum and shouldn’t be handled with soft hands, in my heart I wept, my father wasn’t scum to my mother, my brother isn’t scum to his girlfriend, no man has ever treated me like scum, how do I convince these Women that they have a share of the blame too? I sat there consoling these ladies crying, look at me in my 20’s consoling women old enough to birth me. Marriage isn’t a do or die affair, I have heard mockery statements about how Ibo women don’t marry early because they like to hustle and make money, but these early marriage traits are rampant amongst Ibo women, it is a thing of pride to see their daughters get married early and also give birth early, this doesn’t mean only Ibo women are guilty, far from it, it has become a general issue; it might have worked for our ancestors but we live in different times now.
One day my mother said to me ‘Ifeoma 30 is the right age for a woman to get married’ in my heart I said what’s she talking about now, but today I can see it, most ladies aren’t mentally matured enough to look after themselves not to talk of getting married. My heart aches when I see children from broken homes, I was a product of one before my parents got back together and then my dad died, I do not wish single parenthood on any child, except death was the case. These women haven’t seen their kids for long because their husbands won’t allow it, they can’t go to court because they aren’t educated, they were chased out like common thieves and other women brought in. Education and skills acquisition remains the best legacy, always have a backup\breakup plan because no one knows tomorrow. Marriage isn’t a source or income, be financially free and independent. See where these women live, they don’t have a dime to their names and no skills to support themselves.”